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Soul Care

Pastor Allyson Khondowe 6 September 2026 6 min read

THE HIDDEN BAGGAGE.

  • Every believer has a “sweeping under the carpet” moment with emotional baggage.
  • Eventually, the baggage we’ve been hiding becomes visible.
  • As believers we carry a lot of debt - not just financial, but emotional debt.
  • Key truth: Trauma doesn’t just affect us. We unload it onto those close to us.
  • Responsibility: As believers, we must deal with our trauma. If we don’t, it gets engraved in our bloodline and can continue for years.

Warning: God is not pleased when we seek solutions outside of Him when the Kingdom of Light has a lasting solution.

We run to the world with our problems instead of running to God.

Scriptures:

  • John 3:31 - God’s wisdom is above all
  • Psalm 12:6 - God’s Word is the best solution. It can be tried and tested, and it works.

Note: Even great men and women in the Bible had their emotional weaknesses exposed.

Nature abhors a vacuum. The devil uses the fissures and wounds in our souls to command our lives to devastation.

We need to understand our divine being.

UNDERSTANDING THE SOUL.

Created as a 3-in-1 being - Genesis 1:26

  • Spirit: Lives in a body
  • Body: The physical house
  • Soul: You possess a soul. The soul contains your Mind, Will, and Emotions.

This is why trauma affects you at the level of your soul:

  • Mind = Reasoning

  • Will = Ability to make decisions on your own accord

  • Emotions = Feelings

  • Genesis 2:7 - When God creates, He doesn’t create incomplete things. Your soul was meant to be whole.

  • Genesis 2:17 - At the fall of man, something died. That was the spirit man.

God created you so your spirit man would be strong and connect with Him.

The devil wanted you to fall because he knew within your soul he could deceive your feelings.

TRUTHS ABOUT YOUR SOUL.

  1. Demonic attack happens at the level of the soul.
  • When emotion overcomes you, it opens a door. Your soul becomes vulnerable to attack - Psalm 7:2
  • Someone can look fine on the outside, yet their soul is fragmented.
  1. The soul is a precious commodity - Mark 8:36
  • You can have body and spirit, yet have lost your soul to darkness.
  • The weight of one man’s soul outweighs the value of the whole world - Deuteronomy 10:12
  • Darkness is fighting for people’s souls.
  • You can love God with your strength, but without your soul you’re not loving God fully - 1 Thessalonians 5:23
  • Application: Sanctify your soul.
  1. Prosperity starts in the soul - 3 John 1:2
  • If your soul is impoverished, you won’t enjoy physical blessings.
  • Before praying for things, pray for your soul - Lamentations 3:17
  • Where there is no peace, there is no joy. Your soul needs nourishment.
  1. A fragmented soul hinders God’s hand - James 1:3
  • An unstable mind cannot receive from God.
  • Many things aren’t moving because of instability in the mind.
  • Leaders are often attacked so they lose sight of their purpose.

WHAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOUR SOUL.

  1. Fragmented - Psalm 7:2
  • Illicit sex = adultery. It causes emotional instability.
  • Sign: You think of someone and they immediately text/call - Proverbs 6:32
  1. Wounded by words.
  • Words stick for life and create realities - Life and death are in the power of the tongue
  • Often the meanest words come from believers in church.
  • Be careful. Your words have power to manifest in people’s lives.
  1. Beguiled / Deceived by darkness - 2 Peter 2:14
  • Unstable souls are easy targets.
  • Proof your life by fixing your soul.
  1. Imparted into - 1 Thessalonians 2:8
  • Soul ties: When someone loves you so much they impart their soul to yours.
  • Ministers must fix their soul before ministering, or they relay messages through the wrong instruments.
  1. Disturbed - Psalm 42:5
  • In trials, run to God.
  • Speak healing to your own soul. Don’t be afraid to use your words.
  1. Imprisoned by witchcraft - Ezekiel 13:18
  • In the spirit realm, souls can be traded. The devil can possess and sell a soul to darkness.

THE BIOLOGY OF TRAUMA.

When in a hard situation:

  • Cortisol = stress management
  • Oxytocin = tells body what to do and when

Together they trigger fight or flight.

In extreme danger you enter freeze. This is where emotions and trauma are created.

In this state, opioid hormones are released.

Common Traumatic Events for Believers:

  1. Death of a loved one.

  2. Terrible accident.

  3. Messy divorce.

  4. Disappointment before marriage.

  5. Near-death experience.

  6. Rape.

Key: The year trauma happened, your emotional age halts there. When triggered, you behave like the age you were traumatized.

How the soul copes:

  1. Forgetting - Hides traumatic events in a compartment.

  2. Disconnection - Avoiding places because of what happened.

  3. Avoidance - Avoiding topics. E.g. shutting down when spouse mentions money due to past money trauma.

  4. 3 WAYS TRAUMA PRESENTS ITSELF.

A. BIG T TRAUMA.

Near-death, terminal illness, war, terrible accident.

Leads to PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder:

  1. Anxiety - Living with doom and fear.

  2. Depression - Sadness without a clear reason to can lead to suicide.

  3. Bipolar - Extreme mood swings to can lead to violence.

  4. Schizophrenia - Feels like different people in one soul. Fragments arise to protect you.

B. LITTLE T TRAUMA.

Not less important. Examples:

  1. Constantly ignored growing up.

  2. Verbal/abusive relationship.

  3. Grew up without mother/father figure.

  4. Caring for someone with addictions.

Resulting Patterns:

  1. Trust issues - Difficulty trusting spouses.

  2. Narcissistic behaviour / Gaslighting - Never wrong, always makes you the problem. Often from harsh parents.

  3. Anger issues - 0 to 100 in 5 seconds. From angry parents/guardians.

  4. Control issues - Feeling things won’t work unless you’re in authority.

  5. Unreasonable fears - Heights, deep water, etc.

  6. Authority issues - Cannot submit under authority.

  7. Low self-esteem - Rejecting compliments. Parents: make time for your kids.

  8. Perfectionism - Hard on self after mistakes. From harsh parents.

  9. People-pleasing - Acting different for everyone. From emotionally unstable parents.

  10. Impulsiveness - Talking without thinking. “Cash talkers”. From poverty mindset.

  11. Addictive habits - When sober, the problem is still waiting. Deal with it before your kids inherit it.

  12. Generational trauma - Untreated trauma passes down.

HOW TO DEAL WITH TRAUMA.

Within the Trinity, Jesus Christ is responsible for your soul. He walked this earth and understands - Luke 4:18

4 Steps:

  1. Accept that you have a problem.

  2. Open up to someone you trust - James 5:16. Trust Jesus Christ.

  3. Forgive those who hurt you. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.

Ask the Holy Spirit for power to forgive.

Test: If you hear their name and your heart cringes, you haven’t forgiven yet.

  1. Repent of doors opened by trauma - sins, curses.